I know I haven’t written anything in quite some time, even after I said that would make an effort to do better. Meanwhile, I figured I should write my readers to let them know that I will be updating further as I go along because I, too, am becoming very reacquainted with the frustration that initially inspired me to start this blog and the journey to change our mindsets and stigmas and lives through KNQ.
Very recently, I was exchanging emails with a young man, who I will hypothesize, has very little experience interacting with other men 
online. There was initial email exchange, which progressed into text messaging, at which point he explicitly expressed his apprehension in meeting. He was taking all of the “textbook” precautions to ensure his safety: i.e. wanting to meet during the day, in a public place, etc.
I applauded his efforts, but was also taken back a bit by his casual attitude. He seems very flippant about keeping his word that we would eventually meet as his responses to my texts got more and more spaced. Ultimately, we decided not to meet because I grew impatient feeling as though he thought of me as some sort of pedophile, and I suppose he was just timid and out of his element.
Meeting men offline is no strange thing to me. That has always been my preferred form of contact anyway, especially since I’m always on my computer, working on business plans, watching TV shows I missed earlier, researching other things of even menial interest, or just playing The Sims. I suppose as experience chatting online grew, so did my level of comfort with making a more personal connection with the men with whom I conversed.
Perhaps I did move a little fast in trying to meet this recent acquaintance, but I would like to point out that the plan was indeed dinner (my treat). In any event, I would like to offer this little piece of advice, that I somehow forgot:
Don’t waste your time chasing someone who doesn’t want to be caught.
Here’s Fantasia with that same message in song: “If you don’t want me, then don’t talk to me… go ahead and Free Yourself!”
I don't even know what to say... I've experienced this and it is quite frustrating. I don't think I can say anything to make sense of it all, but I applaud you for making the effort. Too many people like to play games, and it only leaves them lonely in the end. Take satisfaction in knowing that you'll be the one who actually meets someone worth while. His loss.
ReplyDeleteI agree totally some people just like the game of cat and mouse. They really don't want to be caught!
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